Roundup Philippines: A country that has it all

J.Gi Federizo:

Here is another tourist who has shared his great Philippine experience. I just saw this shared on Facebook and decided to check it out. I am thankful for the kind words he has to say about my country and especially for leaving any prejudices behind before setting foot here. We have had other tourists who let their prejudice get the better of them and you wonder why they came here if they didn’t want to in the first place.
I love the pictures here — so beautiful! I kind of feel a bit of envy as he’s been to more places here than I have, he he…Anyway, I am re-blogging so that through Phil D.’ s words and photos, I can share the Philippines to the world as well :)
Thanks, Phil!

Originally posted on ESCapology:

El Nido-Nacpan Beach-PhilippinesIt’s been a quiet some time now since I have traveled the Philippines but I never got to write my final roundup. Recently thinking about it, I wasn’t even sure if I should write it at all since it has been so long ago already. But giving it a second thought, I just had to do it. In the end it was the country where I spent the longest time (three months), the country where I found new friends, fellow travelers and locals alike, the country of many adventures and the country with probably the friendliest people I have met. No, not writing this final roundup wouldn’t do this beautiful country and its people justice. A country that has it all and that is probably my favorite country after all.

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MAYA [CHAPTER 3: REUNIONS, Scene 5]

Wow, I can’t believe it’s been more than a year since I last posted for this! I’m so sorry for being so lazy!…Well, not really lazy, but there are just things in life that I had to do first and this got sidelined. So now, I am continuing with it. This is my latest post for this. I am also currently editing a bit the first chapters. You know sometimes you read something again and now notice misspellings, wrong grammar, and even loopholes. That said, feel free to read the previous chapters and scenes, so check out the link below (especially because there is a very important explanation there…) :)

For past chapter pages, CLICK HERE.

CHAPTER THREE: REUNIONS (Scene 5)

Having puffed his last cigarette, Gabriel headed back to the doctor’s laboratory. He had taken a break from work for a few minutes. His stomach still felt like turning but he made up his mind not to be affected. It was work, he thought, Deal with it. And so what if Dr. Rivas showed him bodies with all the guts and gore. He was tough, right? He had seen worse.

But then again, that was it. He had seen worse. Dealing with this kind of things now only brought back memories Gabriel had struggled to forget for years and he blamed himself for remembering. No, actually, he blamed the NBI for it. He had joined to fight crime, to do good in the world. How was he to know he would be assigned to do this? If only he could back out. But it was an order – an assignment, yes, but an order nonetheless. He put the blame back to himself for performing exceptionally well on the job that landed him this assignment in the first place.

Gabriel took a deep breath, turned the knob and pushed the door open.

What are you doing here? How did you get past – ”

Don’t worry, I didn’t sneak in. I simply kept bothering her until she gave in.”

Hmnn…I’m not surprised then.”

That she gave in?”

That you bothered her.”

Of course, he did not mean to eavesdrop, but he assumed he could simply go in, just as the doctor told him. So now, he heard a conversation between Dr. Rivas and someone whose consequent laughter practically made his heart race.

But you should not be here. I have – ”

Maya-asya…?” Gabriel cut Dr. Rivas mid-sentence, as two surprised people stared at him and he stared back at particularly one of them. No wonder his being reacted the way it did – he stood there staring at the face he missed most yet did not exactly want to see.

Gabilani!!!” Maya screamed and within seconds, she threw her arms around his neck, causing them both to almost topple over a gurney that fortunately held no skeleton or body on it. “Diyos ko! You’re here! It’s really you!!!” she exclaimed, jumping up and down excitedly. Gabriel was rendered speechless for a while.

Dr. Rivas cleared his throat and Maya finally let go. “You know each other?” he asked. Maya answered an ecstatic “YES!!!” but the doctor’s eyes were kept on Gabriel. “You called her Maya-asya…”

Gabriel wanted to know, too, why the two knew each other, how come, how well, but he decided not to ask. “Uh…We’re…old friends,” was his reply, an answer he thought was most appropriate to give to someone who was a stranger to him. Maya knew this; a standard reply to such a potentially dangerous question. Knowing Maya, she would not tell a soul so he knew it was the most plausible answer to give.

You,…she called you Gabilani. That is a very rare name, I believe, and there’s only one person she calls by that name…”

So she did tell a soul. How could she! “Like I said, we’re old friends.” He cast Maya an accusing look but she did not seem anywhere near being remorseful. She was just smiling from ear to ear. He missed that smile. This was not the time nor place to be nostalgic, though. This was not how he wanted to see her again. “But I suppose I don’t need to explain myself.”

Of course, not, Agent Gatdula. Or should I call you Gabilani?” The doctor’s eyes squinted testily.

I prefer Agent Gatdula.”

Maya exclaimed, “Ay! I’m so bad, sorry!” She took Gabriel’s hand and dragged him towards the other man for proper introductions. “Santi, this is Gabilani, A.K.A. Gabriel, that’s what I’d prefer you call him. He’s been my bestfriend since…forever. Gabriel, this is Santi, also my bestfriend since some years ago – there’s no quota on bestfriends. He’s been helping me.”

To him, “Nice touch on the Gatdula, by the way, so nationalistic. It was Gabriel Tatlonghari when last I saw you.” To Santi, “It was Christmas when we thought he needed a new last name. Before that, he was Benjamin…what was your last name then?”

I forgot. I find no reason – ”

Sulayman! Like the rajah in history!” She laughed. But Gabriel recognized it was not at all due to amusement, rather, more like a way to mask her nerves. Yes, she was nervous, he could always tell when she was. He did not expect this perky girl in front of him, and in some way, he was a bit glad to see her like this, but the nervous laughter gave her away.

It seemed that Santi, the doctor, knew it, too, as he stared at her. But how could she! Why Santi? Why him, of all people? Gabriel could not help but feel quite annoyed at this. What was Maya thinking? Or could it be she had plans? What could they be? Did Gabriel really want to know?

I know, guys, let’s celebrate this reunion a bit. Let’s go to the Deli, my treat.”

Before they could protest, she was already dragging them both to the door.

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*Tatlonghari – an actual Filipino last name made up of the two words,“tatlo” and “hari” that mean “three” and “king”

*Rajah Sulayman – a rajah, which means king or an heir to the throne, in Philippine history

 

 

Thanks for reading!!! Writing the next scene already :)

 

New Series: A Few of My Favorite Things -Fairy Gardens

J.Gi Federizo:

Can’t help but share….SO CO CUUUUTEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =>

Originally posted on Stepheny Forgue Houghtlin:

IMG_0802My daughter bought this fabulous gazebo-looking lantern and asked if I would make a fairy garden for her. Ah, one of my favorite things. (See my Pinterest Boards-Fairy Gardens & More)    I hope this one makes you smile.

IMG_0804A tip in case you use a screen as I did. It had straight spikes to anchor into the ‘ground.’ The round tile I used on the floor would not allow for that. With a pair of pliers you can bend the spikes like feet and hide them under the tile and it will hold.

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Contest, Contest, Contest!!!

Thought I’d share Ms. Deborah Owen’s recent post:

Creative Writing Institute Announces Annual Short Story Contest

* 1st prize – $200 USD or a FREE Writing Course Valued at $260
* 2nd prize – $100 USD or a Credit of $150 toward a Writing Course
*3rd prize – $50 USD or a Credit of $100 toward a Writing Course
* Plus 7 honorable mentions!

* When does it start? NOW!
* When does it end? Aug. 9, 2014 Midnight, EST
Creative Writing Institute’s Annual Short Story Contest

No Entry Fee

This is a themed contest. Word limit: between 1,000 and 2,000 words. Your story may be any genre, but this exact sentence must appear in the story:

I have a list and a map. What could possibly go wrong?

Read ALL the guidelines at http://www.CreativeWritingInstitute.com/

Geek Obscura: Rat Queens.

J.Gi Federizo:

Have been neglecting my blogging duties lately, but I thought I’d drop by and reblog something from “Dave’s Corner of the Universe” that’s perfect for comic book geeks. Featuring: The Rat Queens! I tried to see who I could most relate to personality-wise, but save from Hannah, I saw myself as a mix of the others (and thankfully, not as much, LOL!!!). Not sure how I’ll like their comics, really, them being foul-mouthed, excessive drinkers and drug-users, but you know, maybe I’ll have to really “see” to decide the extent of their “badness”…They’ll make for great cosplaying, though, Maybe if I’ll ever have the chance to cosplay again, at least in the office, I’ll go as Violet or Betty, after all, I’ve got the height and kinda stocky figure covered, he he…

Originally posted on Dave's Corner of the Universe:

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Here at Geek Obscura we usually find something that was once all the rage in the geek-averse but now  has dropped out of popularity in main stream geek circles, though it  is still held on to ferociously and fondly by a small cadre of specialized geeks. Today however I am showcasing something that is the next new thing in geek culture. Since us Portlanders live to be pretentious and say “Well yes I was into that years before it became popular.” It is a big deal to us. And this new comic really is a big deal.

So what is the next milestone in the geek stratosphere? The Comic book Rat Queens. Written by Kurtis J. Wiebie and drawn Roc Upchurch for Image’s Shadowline imprint. It is the story of The Rat Queen’s an all female adventuring group that lives in a sword and sorcery fantasy world. So why is…

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X Marks the Now-Missing Spots

“X marks the spot.” I’m sure you’ve heard it said, at least, in books or movies. The letter is considered as a sign, a mark, as said. In other words, it’s an exact location.  

I am down to my last two letters for the A-to-Z Challenge, “X” and “Z”. “Y” came first for the simple reason that I didn’t know what “X” to write about till the other day when I had an inspiration. Then what happened this morning? I decided to check  MY FOLDER and found that a lot of what I’ve written as guest blogger, under the Web Content Writing category,  now lead to error or missing pages.  X MARKS THE NOW-MISSING SPOTS is more like it.

I am totally disappointed. I will have to search for those articles, maybe they’re in there, somewhere else, in the same sites. Unfortunately, I think some of the domains have already expired. Right now, there are only these three that are still right there:

THE FIVE WRITERS YOU DON’T WANT: SPOTTING THE BAD APPLE

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You need a writer. Do you know how to spot the bad writers from the good ones? Know the five types of writers to avoid to save you time, money and energy.

THE WRITING DUMMY’S GUIDE TO BLOGGING

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New to blogging? A few tips to help you blog right

HOW TO IMPROVE SITE PERFORMANCE? AUDIT, FOR BUSINESS’ SAKE!

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You know you’ve got a great business, but it’s performance is somewhat dismal. How to improve it? Site check, please!

 

Hope the others get published again, and soon!

 

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Hawak-Kamay (Holding Hands)

I know, I know. I discussed about my theme songs recently. But there’s one I forgot to add, which is just okay, because this song I am about to share is not something that’s simply meant for me. It is something that I dedicate to two important people in my life, my sister and my future husband. This song is called Hawak-Kamay. “Holding Hands” or “Hand in Hand,” in English. It is by Yeng Constantino.

Yeng was the grand prize winner of the first-ever Pinoy Dream Academy show. This was a song that she composed before she entered the competition. While at that time, she was not my favorite, this song elevated my respect for this then-teener. Originally a song she created for her cousin who was undergoing some sort of problem, this song speaks of going through the journey together, courageously, through good and bad times, with hands held. Considering how young she was at the time, the lyrics seemed to have been written by someone way beyond her years.

Very touching and meaningful, it is the perfect message for beloved people in your life, be they family, friends or special someones. Yeng may not be a favorite artist of mine, but I think she writes some of the best Filipino songs in this generation. Her song is one of my most loved Filipino songs.

Here’s the song and a translation I found below. I have had no time to do the translating myself so I tried to find one and found a non-Filipino’s version of the song (I think I can translate it better, though, if only I have the time). If you want to hear his version, click on his name.

“I’m By Your Side”
English Version/Lyrics Written by: David DiMuzio
Original Tagalog version written by: Yeng Constantino

Sometimes you’re pinned to the ground by the weight of the problem
Sometimes the world can spin you around, till you could scream out
Why won’t it end now?

You could look up to the heavens
Someone up there’s listening to us
Or maybe you could call on me
You always know at any time

I’m by your side
Through the rain, though the night, every fight
In a world that has no guarantees
I’m by your side
Hand in hand through the days that see us laugh and cry
Sa mundo ng kawalan

Sometimes the world breaks apart, underneath
The trust upon which you set your weary feet
The current pulls you towards disaster, you swim to break free

You’re not alone now, I’m not that far
Always know that you’re a shooting star
You’re never alone, Never Alone

 

My big sister and I grew up always arguing, so who would think I would dedicate something like this to her? Well, maybe we did not get along well, but it did not mean we didn’t love each other. When she began working, I decided to show my respect to her as a legitimate adult and didn’t argue much with her anymore. I knew she was still fond of me in a certain way because she surprised me by gifting me with stuffed toys and books, especially my collection of the Anne of Green Gables series. You know, love doesn’t always have to be shown grandly. Sometimes, it’s in the little things, if you only know how to see things in a deeper perspective.

Meanwhile, unlike most couples who have their theme songs (well, I assume that most couples do have their own), FH (future husband, okay?) and I do not have any, unless we count the first songs I ever “sung” for him, which were recorded a capella versions of Part of Your World and The Journey (he asked me to sing this again to him recently, saying he missed it). That said, this song is now officially our theme song, though he doesn’t know that yet, he he.

 

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I hope you liked that song because I love it!

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I guess you did not notice, but I’ll confess anyway. I skipped my “X” post for now. Why? ’cause I couldn’t think of a thing! And it’s keeping me from writing anything, so I decided to postpone that one ;)

No Questions Asked

Call it idiocy, but when I changed my relationship status in Facebook last May 21, I had expected the change to go unnoticed. I seem to remember having changed “Single” to “In a Relationship” before without being noticed because I did something with the settings (I may have done THIS). Naturally, that was still my frame of mind when I chose a newer status — “Engaged.” Just five to ten seconds later, people began congratulating me and I realized it was not an invisible change after all.

Facebook announced it like this:

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No wonder people thought we just got engaged! Instead of simply accepting the change I made to my relationship status, from “In a Relationship” to “Engaged,” Facebook announced it as just “Got Engaged.” It was kiiind of late…It would have been skipped, actually…Image Copyright © J.Gi Federizo

That is why people thought/think this life event happened just recently. Truth was, it wasn’t a pop-the-question kind of thing. More like a  matter-of-fact statement that began more than a year ago and went like this: “When we get married….” or sometimes, “When do you want to get married?” I say sometimes because these were mentioned in more than just one occasion. In several conversations, in fact.

It was never a question answerable with a YES or NO. No surprises pulled off like suddenly asking in front of a huge crowd (and it’s like the girl can’t say no that way, really). No relatives and friends secretly joining forces with the groom-wannabe. No expensive settings, elaborate plots  or maybe special effects like fireworks in the sky. No death-defying stunts. No cameras. No going down on one’s knee. No OMG-I’m-gonna-cry-pass-me-the-tissue moment. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Zero.

wedding-proposalIn other words, no proposal whatsoever. I had jokingly told him why he ruined the surprise by saying it many times rather than saving the question to pop at the perfect moment. Being the simple man that he was, he asked if that was even a requirement. The closest he got to asking it was by saying, “Why, don’t you want to?” (to which I asked, and still often ask, “Are you sure you will marry me? Me? This Me???”)

In essence, it was true. Why pop the question when you already know the answer? Not saying all other couples who went through this sort of modern ritual were wrong. To each couple their own. Just saying there is more than one way to do it. The important thing is the noble and sincere intention. It doesn’t matter how he asks — or says — it.

An actual proposal would have been thrilling, for sure, but there is a certain feeling to be had when your partner lets you know in his own way that there is no question, he is thinking of the — not a — future with you as his wife, despite all the flaws you have that you keep counting. He is not at all hesitant to state it as a fact, as something that seems almost tangible because the proof, your love for each other, is right there in front of you. Or is shared between you. However you say it, you get the point, I dare think.

And to be honest enough, I also somehow felt the thrill, what we call kilig, the first time he popped the — uh — statement. It’s how I wanted it, anyway.  It was the intimate (non-)proposal I wanted, with only the two of us in attendance. I wanted it simple, practical and sweet.

wedding-ringsHere’s a surprise for you: THE WEDDING WAS LAST WEEK. Well, supposedly.

After my dilly-dallying and constant moving of the schedule of the wedding, I finally decided last November that this was it, I had to make a final decision and stick to it. There was no point of postponing things. Finally, then, I told him “May next year,” and that’s this year. We began planning and preparing the requirements until April when we finalized the date of the civil wedding.

Due to time and budget constraints, we decided on a civil wedding to be attended by mostly family and relatives only. To friends finding it out just now, most of you didn’t know and I apologize for not inviting, but I do hope you understand that it was never about or against you, nothing of the sort.

The wedding was to be on May 22, last Thursday, but you won’t see an actual wedding ring on my fnger just yet. What happened? Well, his mother suffered a stroke on May 8. Knowing how unwise and insensitive it would have been to push through with it, I made a decision, talked it over with him, then we told his parents we could move it on a later date. It was not a hard decision, really. It’s about health and family after all. If anything, it is buying us time to save up more and plan it better. No biggie. It was my birthday when we talked to them and I spent it the best way possible, by being unselfish.

So that new status the other day? Long overdue.

I had thought about it hard because I wanted to make sure I would do it not because I was desperate and afraid of growing old alone. I had to make sure that there was no doubt in my mind that he was the one for me and that I accepted who he was. I had to make sure there was no doubt in his own mind I was the one for him. Few people know of our story, or stories. Maybe we don’t look it but we each went through a lot in our lives. We’re still stones with rough edges. Together, we can smoothen out those edges.

Lifetime challenge, accepted…See you till next status update!!!

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A BIG THANK YOU to all who congratulated us :D

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How “Vanity” Killed the CATS Entry

I wasn’t even going to post today, but Life really has a way of changing and connecting things, and now I write about VANITY. As my “V” post for the A-to-Z Challenge, I meant to post my writeup on the Belgian stage performer Veerle Casteleyn, if I could just find it (I really do want to introduce her to you through that article so will post one of these days). Veerle is the actress-dancer who played Jemima in the film version of Andrew Lloyd Webber‘s CATS The Musical.

Life had other plans, though. Due to something else I need not elaborate, I just Googled one of my older online aliases. Lo and behold! At the top of the first page result was a link to an archived discussion, not really a debate, as they called it, since everyone else other than myself hated me. WikiPedia hated me. You see, WikiPedia and I go way back.

This was back when WikiPedia was just starting and encouraging people to be its first volunteer non-professional editors (you know how it works, right?). I thought it would be neat to be an editor so I joined them. How, I don’t remember. Anyway, as it was still starting and basically testing grounds through trial and error, guidelines weren’t all that clear and people were still sort of trying to get the feel of it.

Me, being excited and being a CATS fan, not to mention, still trying to grasp the whole notion of writing for the Internet when I was not at all net-savvy, I decided to contribute. The thing was I did some things wrong that led to others misinterpreting my intentions as a means for self-promotion because I linked to my blog posts. Vain, they said about me. They decided to do a debate on whether to delete my contributions or not. I admit I was stupid, going into something I did not fully understand. What I could not comprehend was how nasty people could be in judging others and saying bad things about them. But then again, this was way before Facebook and Twitter. The comments paled in comparison, though, to what people post nowadays.

The funny-in-a-not-so-ha-ha-way thing was I wondered if they didn’t realize I could read them when they should have known I was an editor like themselves. Couldn’t they just simply cite a rule that said linking to personal blogs was not allowed? They could have politely asked me to edit or to delete what needed to be deleted. The comments thread went this way:

*Delete: vanity. The author then created three separate articles on misspellings of the screen name, each linking to the first ”and to the others”. 

* Delete. Aargh. Why do people think this is relevant to the rest of the world? 

* It isn’t. Delete all.

*”’Delete”’! No doubt about it.

*Delete it- definitely. Pointless and boring

*”’Comment”’: the original poster of this page keeps blanking it – could this qualify as a speedy? [Ed. I don't even know what that means! What do "blanking" and "speedy" mean here???] 

**Comment: Yes, if it’s the author doing it. With IP’s, it’s hard to be sure.

***Comment: it’s the author Charlizegraciedylan, [http://en.wikipedia.org/w/wiki.phtml?title=Little_Dove_Feather&action=history]

*”’Delete.”’ Vanity.

Of all the things I hate, it’s when people make assumptions on my character when they don’t even know me. So I decided to  make things easier for them and posted this:

Dear WikiPedia

In the archive, there doesn’t seem to be any more response to that for reasons I am not aware of and don’t really care about. This information about my personal experience had been a secret I kept until now. I kept it as such because of its embarrassing nature. To actually have this kind of history is embarrassing. But if there’s one thing history teaches us is to learn from our mistakes.

This post is not against WikiPedia itself, but is meant to serve as a reminder to me, and maybe to you as well, especially in this Internet age. Advice to self:

(1) THINK before you leap. That means to always be careful. Think twice, thrice, even many times, about what I am going to say, share or do online and how.

(2) BE AWARE.  Think of whom I share information to. The more I share in public, the more chance for trolls and unfriendly people to target me, ’cause that’s how they get their fix, to degrade others so they can feel better about themselves. In this case, I tried not to mind but because some action was needed to be decided by them, I made things easier. But generally, I just give trolls and nasty people no mind.

(3) KNOW. Make sure I fully understand the rules, regulations and what are expected of me, even if I get nothing in return for the effort.

(4) DO NOT BE VAIN. I was not that vain that I had to keep linking to my own blog — to gain traffic was not the purpose. It just was not well-thought out.  But my crime of vanity was committed when I decided to join the team of editors because it somehow added something to my ego. I got my comeuppance early.

 

It’s never easy to share embarrassing stuff about yourself. But if that helps to improve one’s self, I’m all about sharing. We improve only when we learn from mistakes.

 

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My Five Theme Songs to Live By

I’ve had the draft for this for daaayssss…Anyway,…

Let’s talk about THEME SONGS. Not just any theme songs from movies or shows. I mean those that currently define, describe, and/or I, hopefully, will follow in the years to come, maybe in my lifetime. Basically, these are songs that help bring me back to my senses and make me push through with life and push on.

So, let me share to you now…

 

My Five Theme Songs to Live By

1. Defying Gravity by Idina Menzel

This also serves as my LSS or Last Song Syndrome fave. I play this in the office practically every work day, and play it non-stop a lot of times, too (you can ask my officemates). As I shared in my WICKED post, the song is from the musical. Maybe I am ten years late in really appreciating this song, but I have fallen in love with it now. Maybe because it holds more meaning to me now, too.

The song speaks of breaking free and flying high, escaping from things that hold you back or down from becoming the best and happiest you can be. As Idina’s Elphaba says, it’s time to defy gravity. Below is Idina’s album version of the song:

I’m through accepting limits
‘Cause someone says they’re so
Some things I cannot change
But till I try, I’ll never know!

…I’m defying gravity
And you can’t pull me down!

I guess Idina’s Elsa’s “Let It Go” is in a similar vein (not really the same), but I can relate more with “Defying Gravity” and identify more with Elphie. I know you most probably have heard the song already or seen the movie — I’d be surprised if you haven’t yet — but if you just want to compare, I’m posting the other song, too, and this one’s got sing-along lyrics on it:

2. The Journey by Lea Salonga

Not to be biased or anything because Lea is Filipino and a favorite stage performer, but this song is one of the best songs I have ever heard. It’s not just due to the melody, which may not be the best, but how the message is conveyed. Just watch the video and maybe sing along with the lyrics…

I may be in love with song #1 right now, but this remains as Top 1 in my list of theme songs. It serves as a reminder for me to keep being positive and keep going, to enjoy life and love the journey. Does my blog’s name tell you anything? Forward, always forward, onward, always up, we must go ;)

From what I know, this song was recorded as part of a concept album for the Little Tramp musical that is based on the life of the great Charlie Chaplin. Incidentally, he originally composed the music for the next song for a movie he was making, the words added later on by lyricists.

3. Smile by Nat King Cole

How beautiful! I am not sure about the first time ever that I heard it in my life, but I remember when I actually took notice. That was when I was a kid and my sister and I used to watch old shows on TV (for some reason, we were fond of watching shows that were even way beyond our time) and one of those was the gag show of Jerry Lewis. He would always sing some parts of it at the end of every episode. I immediately understood and fell in love with it.

It is something that anyone who has ever felt sad and lonely can relate to. There is a certain sense of melancholy in it, yet there is the positive message as well that we can hold on to.

4. For Good by Idina Menzel and Kristin Chenoweth

Alright, it’s still WICKED and Idina, but you can’t blame me. It just so happens that the show has really good songs in it. And since I am someone who values friendship very much, this duet by Idina and Kristin really spoke to me. The best thing is, it doesn’t necessarily have to be simply about friendship; rather, it can be about relationships in general.

I’ve heard it said that people come into our lives
For a reason, bringing something we must learn
And we are led to those who help us most to grow
If we let them and we help them in return…

It well may be that we will never meet again
In this lifetime so let me say before we part
So much of me is made of what I learned from you
You’ll be with me like a handprint on my heart.

When it was sung live onstage, I noticed how quiet the people from the audience were. Not a few hearts were touched by this song. Every time I listen to it, I can’t help but feel a lump in my throat and want to cry. You should have seen me the first days I was listening to it – I did cry. Then I tortured myself and played it over and over. Crazy, eh?

Those first two lines of the second quoted stanza gets to me every time! I am reminded of friendships lost due to distance or falling-out, reminded to be thankful for the great people in my life, and especially reminded of my parents to whom I was not able to say “so much of me is made of what I learned from you” (oh man, I’m tearing up right now..sorry…).

This song has become my most favorite friendship/relationship song and I think it will be hard for any similar song to dethrone it from my list.

5. You Gotta Be by Des’ree

Last but not the least, we have this perk-up song, at least that’s what I’m calling it. Ever since I learned and memorized it, I have regarded it as a self-advice song. Depressed, worried, anxious? Sing it.  Simply enjoying the moment? Sing it. Apply it anytime, anywhere!

Basically, it’s about keeping a positive outlook, being courageous in the face of hardship, and believing in the power of love.

You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day.

In fact, on the few times I get to sing in front of a videoke machine, I almost always sing it. It’s like my default song or something (well, along with song #2).

 

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That’s it, the five theme songs of my life. In other words, guide songs. Do you have yours? What is it or what are they? I invite you to share :)

This is my belated “T” post for…

a-to-z-challenge