Hello, Blogging, my old friend

These last weeks, it’s been like the zest for life was zapped out of me…Okay, that maybe exaggerated and over-dramatic, and it’s not like I’m the YOLO type of person either. For some reason, though, I was too uninspired to do things I believed I should have been doing.

It’s not even depression. It’s like…I just allowed myself to wallow in the mundane goings-on of life. Sort of. My brains were always thinking, mind you. But in a figurative sense, I had no energy for anything, except maybe for watching TV series, at least. Doesn’t mean there weren’t notable events in my life. There were a few, some even worth mentioning. I could just save the stories for the rainy days–No, wait. These are the rainy days. Here anyway.

Okay, I have to break this phase, so I’ll share some. Where have I been or what have I been doing these last weeks? What’s new?

Through the Reading Glasses

Alright, here’s something new:

My eyes! My eyes!

Notice anything? If your answer is I’m not perfect anymore, you’re right, HA!!! My eyesight isn’t as normal as it used to be, and as I used to brag about, anymore.

My visual acuity used to be 20/20 for the longest time, now it’s 20/25. Or is it 25/20? Sorry, I have yet to understand this kind of thing, but based on what I’ve read, 20/25 could be the right one.

Anyway, these are actually just reading glasses, no need yet for the more serious glasses, thank goodness. My peripheral awareness or side vision still seems excellent. The kids are surprised that I see what they’re doing even when I’m not exactly looking, he he.

And Binge-watching is My Game-o

After fighting walkers a.k.a. zombies in The Walking Dead, Sonequa Martin-Green now fights Klingons in Star Trek: Discovery

I watch whole TV series and a few movies every now and then. I just actually nerd-ed out earlier on Star Trek: Discovery then continued to After Trek where they discussed episode 3.

I am enjoying myself (will probably post my next set of quick reviews in a day or two). It’s pretty much the only thing that makes me enjoy my weekdays. The funny thing is, if not suspense-thrillers or horror flicks, I actually just watch predictable and silly teen/tween flicks. Yes, guilty as charged–I mean–as confessed. That’s one side of me you didn’t know until this fateful day. Don’t spread it around, alright?

NoTube

My YouTube-viewing has considerably waned. For some reason, just like vloggers noticeably starting to get tired of vlogging, I was noticeably starting to get tired of watching vlogs. So sometimes, I skipped days of viewing, which was good because it somehow “rejuvenated” me into watching again on some other days. I try not to overdo anymore.

Face-to-Tweet

Facebook now often tires me, too. Sometimes, people tire me. I am also prone to be somewhat depressed about certain things I see there, so I have been lying low. Not totally ignoring Facebook, just…not totally giving it much of my time. I have been having this love-hate relationship with it anyway. Surprisingly, I’ve become more into Twitter. Go figure. I think it’s because it’s less personal and there’s less disappointment with people I actually know.

No Relations and Old Relations

In the past weeks, I have had a falling-out with someone, lost a close relation, and found old friends.

I do not regret the falling-out. Maybe it’s good that it’s happened. I have somehow ridden myself of toxic. She’s still there, but I won’t allow myself to be caught again in such a parasitic relationship. I have often needed and received help from kind people, but there has never been any selfish intention of feeding off them just because I can. I know how to show my appreciation.

With the second, there was also a falling-out for more than a year. Honestly, I am not sure if “falling-out” is even the right word. I had never felt trusted, and that’s how far of an explanation I will give. I sincerely wanted us to be closer. Circumstances and differences did not give me enough chance to do this. After the “falling-out”, I stayed away. Even during her illness, which I was initially unaware of. With what was then going on, I felt that a visit from me would be unwelcome and may cause more rifts, so I still stayed away. Until I heard the bad news, that she passed away.

In an ironic twist, people were talking and being chummy again. If you knew the whole background of my story, you’d use the word “ironic”, too. Things have become better. So far. I hope I am mistaken, but this could again be just the calm before the next years of storm.

After years of searching, I finally found two of the three former acquaintances I had been looking for on Facebook. I never expected the change in one, which was actually good, and I have yet to see any changes from the other. I am still looking for the third and I don’t know why no one seems to care to know if she still exists, which is sad. care.

Celebrate Good Times

Happy 7th Anniversary to The End Justifies the Journey! I was expecting a notification in September. I became too uninspired, I forgot to look. So yeah, I missed the notif. But hey, I’m happy to still be here 🙂

Alright, I’ve broken the phase now, I’ll try to keep it broken. Please stick with me, okay? Oh, and so many thanks to everyone who has become my new follower and the visitors who have contributed to my statistics. Frankly, I was surprised that people had been visiting while I was away. In the world of blogging, that’s actually a good thing 🙂

March 2017 RECAP #MonthlyRecap

I missed doing my March 2017 recap. To be honest, it feels so long ago now that I can’t even remember the stuff I wrote about. My revisiting the posts now will take me back, definitely. From what I know, I was really hyped up for the then-upcoming A to Z Challenge. I hardly really checked out Facebook even.

Here’s a recap of my March 2017:

Blog-wise:

(1) Hash potatoes!!!

#MondayMemoirs (none)

#MondayReviews (none)

#TuesdayTunes (see Wishes and Songs Part 1)

#TVTuesday (none)

#AskWednesday (see “As writers, have you ever had ideas only to find out later that others beat you to them? What were they?”)

#WhatsupWednesday (see The Guy Google)

#ThursdayTips (none)

#FeatureFriday (see The BRF and New Society with its New Technologies)

#FridayFlashdance (none)

#AnythingDay (see JAMIE PART 4: DEAR JAMIEThe A-to-Z Challenge theme Reveal 2017 and JAMIE PART 5: JAMIE AND THE GOSSIP BOYS)  –  Any day could be about anything.

Judging from my results, I was semi-active, which was better than hardly active or, worse, inactive. I was gearing up for April anyway.

(3) My Trending Stories. I still put it off because of certain hindrances, but I decided to finally restart it sometime in May (which is NOW).

(4) A to Z ChallengeWait till I’m done.

Social Media Reach-out:

 

I’m getting followers slowly but steadily, at least. I don’t really expect to get many, I’m just surprised there are those who decide to FOLLOW me on Facebook (even Twitter, which still confuses me at times) when they don’t really know me personally. It’s so nice to get followers who think that what I post are interesting enough.

A few months back, I started sending thank-you messages to FB followers. Unfortunately, it could be so time-consuming that I had to stop. What I normally do when I have the time is to visit bloggers who decide to follow my blog. I get email notifications everytime, so I just filter to see followers and go from there.

I’ve been somehow more active than I’ve ever been on Twitter (just a tad more). And, oh, I should give special shout-outs to both Annette (@YouAreTheExpert) and Debbie (@DebbieDogLady). Whenever I post anything here, it gets posted on their Twitter pages. That’s free promotion for me through RSS Feed-ing. Thank you, ladies 🙂

Fiction/Story- and Poetry-writing:

Restarted being a bit more active. See, I posted two Jamie Tales shorts (see #AnythingDay).

Literature:

No book-reading happened whatsoever. I am so ashamed.

Personal:

  • I have become a Wish 107.5 FM fanatic, ergo, my #TuesdayTunes post. It honestly helped me overcome a sort of tough time then. Music is great therapy.
  • I have become an active Quora adviser, but I am very curious why 98% of questions I am asked has to do with handling relationships. I suddenly feel like a relationship guru. But I suppose, the key is to put myself in their shoes.
  • I declared self-imposed hiatus on Facebook and was away for more than two weeks, I think. It was due to a mix of avoiding things/people that make me feel a bit depressed and trying to write more.

 

Your thoughts? 😉

NEW & SHAMELESS!!! #atozchallenge2015

What’s NEW??? Well, I’ve become shameless. I’ve got a shameless plug, that is. This is something new that I am trying out, new in the sense that I’ve only done this now.

I feel awkward calling it “Fan Page,” but that’s what Facebook generally calls its pages,  particularly those accounts owned by individuals.

“A fan page is the only way for entities like businesses, organizations, celebrities, and political figures to represent themselves on Facebook.”  (Heyo Blog)

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It’s me at J.GiOFFICIAL

Reading it makes me feel more awkward as I am not sure to which category I should belong, if I should even have such an account. But then again, it’s a personal choice. And if I believe I am a writer in my heart, then I should claim it. Why should we always limit our choices in life?

I do love this description much better as it “covers” me:

“Creating a Facebook fan page is an amazing way to promote your business, build awareness for a cause, gather support for your band, or to advertise in a number of other ways.” (wikiHow)

This should give me more motivation to write, plus I will be able reach a bigger number of audience. I doubt that I’ll have that much actual fans, I am not delusional, but just having a few would be very cool for me already.

That said, we go to the shameless part — Please LIKE my fan page!!! It would mean so much to me….Thank you, guys, you’re so kind 🙂

Meanwhile, if you are wondering whether opening such an account is for you when you already have an account, this might help: Personal Page vs. Fan Page.

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I hadn’t the time and resources to continue the A-to-Z Challenge until now. This is my “N” post, N for “New”.

N of A to Z

Do you have a fan page? Why not show to us? Just add the link to the comments so I can approve your posting the link.

No Questions Asked #atozchallenge2014

Call it idiocy, but when I changed my relationship status in Facebook last May 21, I had expected the change to go unnoticed. I seem to remember having changed “Single” to “In a Relationship” before without being noticed because I did something with the settings (I may have done THIS). Naturally, that was still my frame of mind when I chose a newer status — “Engaged.” Just five to ten seconds later, people began congratulating me and I realized it was not an invisible change after all.

Facebook announced it like this:

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No wonder people thought we just got engaged! Instead of simply accepting the change I made to my relationship status, from “In a Relationship” to “Engaged,” Facebook announced it as just “Got Engaged.” It was kiiind of late…It would have been skipped, actually…Image Copyright © J.Gi Federizo

That is why people thought/think this life event happened just recently. Truth was, it wasn’t a pop-the-question kind of thing. More like a  matter-of-fact statement that began more than a year ago and went like this: “When we get married….” or sometimes, “When do you want to get married?” I say sometimes because these were mentioned in more than just one occasion. In several conversations, in fact.

It was never a question answerable with a YES or NO. No surprises pulled off like suddenly asking in front of a huge crowd (and it’s like the girl can’t say no that way, really). No relatives and friends secretly joining forces with the groom-wannabe. No expensive settings, elaborate plots  or maybe special effects like fireworks in the sky. No death-defying stunts. No cameras. No going down on one’s knee. No OMG-I’m-gonna-cry-pass-me-the-tissue moment. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Zero.

wedding-proposalIn other words, no proposal whatsoever. I had jokingly told him why he ruined the surprise by saying it many times rather than saving the question to pop at the perfect moment. Being the simple man that he was, he asked if that was even a requirement. The closest he got to asking it was by saying, “Why, don’t you want to?” (to which I asked, and still often ask, “Are you sure you will marry me? Me? This Me???”)

In essence, it was true. Why pop the question when you already know the answer? Not saying all other couples who went through this sort of modern ritual were wrong. To each couple their own. Just saying there is more than one way to do it. The important thing is the noble and sincere intention. It doesn’t matter how he asks — or says — it.

An actual proposal would have been thrilling, for sure, but there is a certain feeling to be had when your partner lets you know in his own way that there is no question, he is thinking of the — not a — future with you as his wife, despite all the flaws you have that you keep counting. He is not at all hesitant to state it as a fact, as something that seems almost tangible because the proof, your love for each other, is right there in front of you. Or is shared between you. However you say it, you get the point, I dare think.

And to be honest enough, I also somehow felt the thrill, what we call kilig, the first time he popped the — uh — statement. It’s how I wanted it, anyway.  It was the intimate (non-)proposal I wanted, with only the two of us in attendance. I wanted it simple, practical and sweet.

wedding-ringsHere’s a surprise for you: THE WEDDING WAS LAST WEEK. Well, supposedly.

After my dilly-dallying and constant moving of the schedule of the wedding, I finally decided last November that this was it, I had to make a final decision and stick to it. There was no point of postponing things. Finally, then, I told him “May next year,” and that’s this year. We began planning and preparing the requirements until April when we finalized the date of the civil wedding.

Due to time and budget constraints, we decided on a civil wedding to be attended by mostly family and relatives only. To friends finding it out just now, most of you didn’t know and I apologize for not inviting, but I do hope you understand that it was never about or against you, nothing of the sort.

The wedding was to be on May 22, last Thursday, but you won’t see an actual wedding ring on my fnger just yet. What happened? Well, his mother suffered a stroke on May 8. Knowing how unwise and insensitive it would have been to push through with it, I made a decision, talked it over with him, then we told his parents we could move it on a later date. It was not a hard decision, really. It’s about health and family after all. If anything, it is buying us time to save up more and plan it better. No biggie. It was my birthday when we talked to them and I spent it the best way possible, by being unselfish.

So that new status the other day? Long overdue.

I had thought about it hard because I wanted to make sure I would do it not because I was desperate and afraid of growing old alone. I had to make sure that there was no doubt in my mind that he was the one for me and that I accepted who he was. I had to make sure there was no doubt in his own mind I was the one for him. Few people know of our story, or stories. Maybe we don’t look it but we each went through a lot in our lives. We’re still stones with rough edges. Together, we can smoothen out those edges.

Lifetime challenge, accepted…See you till next status update!!!

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A BIG THANK YOU to all who congratulated us 😀

This is my “W” post for…

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All-Things Komikon and the Whilce Portacio Art Team

Sorry, I have not posted anything about the last Komikon I attended. Too busy. Still busy but I can’t pass up the chance to announce the stuff I found out from the Komikon Facebook page. Summer Komikon is on April 12, 2014. Better highlight that in your activities calendar. As usual, venue is at Bayanihan Center.

So below are all-things Komikon-related PLUS one other special announcement:

A. From Sulyap Komiks Anthology: “Here’s the cover for the second batch of Sulyap. Drawn by superstar comic book artist, Stephen Jorge Segovia. Vote which background color you want it printed on.” My personal choice is white. Let them know what you prefer, too. CLICK HERE.

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B. They’re asking if you’d like to star in a Komikon video. From Komikon.org: “Make a video testimonial…telling us about KOMIKON. It may be about an unforgettable experience, your personal KOMIKON collection or what impact the event had on you or the comic industry.” DETAILS HERE. Sample:

C. It’s Summer Komikon again! Komikon.org says it’s time to “Sharpen your comics drawing skills and join the Summer Komikon 2014 Comic Creation Contest!” This year, TEN is the theme. FOR MORE INFO, CHECK THEM OUT HERE.

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NOW, regarding Whilce Portacio’s Art Team,…

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“MOTHERHOOD KNOWS NO BOUNDARIES”

It’s the love month yet! What better way to celebrate love than to pay tribute to the reason why we are all here alive, living and loving? This is a story of a young mother’s love. We’re months ahead of Mother’s Day, but it’s nice to celebrate the bond between mother and child. Of course, we do not belittle fathers, but real men understand this.

I am not a mother so I asked someone to guest blog. Actually, I asked permission to reblog something she wrote. Technically, it’s not exactly a reblog as I read it on her Facebook page, but we’re not strict here *wink!* I was supposed to post this next Sunday, but seeing a recently shared post in FB that is eliciting a lot of comments, I decided there’s no better time than today.

Folks, let’s meet Lorie and her cute baby…ENJOY!!! 🙂

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MOTHERHOOD KNOWS NO BOUNDARIES

(Lorie Dazo)

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Baby and her equally cute mom, Lorie

I just had my APE taken. The doctor who administered my physical exam was a “he.” That was probably the reason why the nurse handled the breast and anal examinations. I would have not minded, after all, I had been naked in front of strangers of both genders twice. And the last vivid memory I have of my recent childbirth is that of a male-nurse (or a doctor) holding my left breast as another nurse put my newborn on my chest so that the baby could have its taste of the first milk.

Because I have been actively breastfeeding my newborn, I have become shameless. I can probably claim that I have mastered the art of breastfeeding in public. With a brave front, I have demanded for special privileges in public places, asked to be provided a decent breastfeeding station. It has allowed my baby to peacefully latch on before I put a scarf around her and dare face the public again.

Inside the house, I became less conscious about the privacy of my own body as I am more concerned about pacifying my baby whenever she howls (yes, howl) out of hunger anywhere in the house. I am unmindful of the fact that our new home has glass windows, and no, we have not installed curtains yet, nor blinds, and that my sister winces every time she sees the exposed breast. Only when there are relatives of the opposite sex do I put a scarf around us or secure a private area to breastfeed. This is not out of shame, but out of courtesy, for they would probably be unwilling to witness such an intimate scene.

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No, my dears, that is NOT the father 😉 As for Baby…feeding time!!!

This is also the first pregnancy that I have no immediate interest to regain my size, or to whiten the darkened areas of my skin. I am actually anxious that anything I take may affect the lactation of my child. I have probably lost interest or perhaps I am more interested in the welfare of my baby rather than in being pleasant-looking. And since I am breastfeeding, gone are the days that my husband would help me take care of the child during the night or in the wee hours of the morning as I am the only one she probably needs when she wakes up.

I have been more tired than ever, barely remembering how I survived post-pregnancy after my first child. I sometimes wonder if I have made the right decision to breastfeed my second child, then I remember that it was not my choice. The baby chose it. She wants me. As opposed to my first-born who refused and hated being breastfed, my newborn hates the bottled counterpart. She loves to be cuddled warmly and safely onto my chest as she sucks out all the weight I gained during pregnancy. Yes, if there is one positive outcome in relation to my physical appearance, it is that thanks to breastfeeding, I am losing weight. And losing weight fast.

A few more days and I will formally return to work (formally, as I have been using my leaves, working and checking the output of my colleagues). That will mean that I cannot be disturbed for a full eight hours. I do not know how my baby will adapt to this, but we have introduced bottle feeding to her in the last two weeks (my child has no choice but to be bottlefed during those hours).

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This is one of her latest pics, taken a few days ago. What a cutie patootie!

During the two months that I have been breastfeeding my child, I have learned a lot of misconceptions regarding breastfeeding and have affirmed a lot of positive results from it as well. Most of all, I am happy that my baby is as healthy as I want her to be, with all her limbs and cheeks full and bright.

With aching breasts, I am moving on to probably more tiresome days ahead. But this, I can say: I have embraced motherhood, wholeheartedly, finally.

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Mommy is a crafts-freak, and that’s a good thing. This is a token for Baby’s Christening this coming Sunday, February 23…Welcome to the world, Baby!!!

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In case you were wondering, this is the image posted on Facebook that I was talking about

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: LORELIE DAZO is now a mother of two. She is a colleague but don’t ask me what she does, it’s complicated 😉 She says in her blog, “I love doing crafts. I love painting. I am happy with what I have.” You can find her at lcdazo.wordpress.com. It still doesn’t have much but hopefully I can make her write more jewels like this 🙂

Meanwhile, may I emphasize, Miss Dazo owns ALL copyrights to the article and photos, with the exception of the last image (cartoon). None of what she owns may be copied from here. Contact her first, if you want to use her piece, especially the photos.

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Thank you for reading! We both hope you enjoyed it.

As you can see, somebody’s sharing of a Facebook post regarding breastfeeding in public prompted me to bump the schedule of this blog post a few days earlier. I personally do not mind mothers feeding their kids in public. It is a bit awkward as, like most people here, I grew up in a conservative society, but I’ve realized long ago that breastfeeding is a natural and important process. As I told the author, I am actually often really concerned about others who may be ogling. Fortunately, most breastfeeding moms know how to properly position their babies so, you know, sorry, folks, nothing to see here. Go on, turn and walk away, that’s right… 🙂

What are your thoughts on this? Let us know by answering the poll and posting comments. BTW, opinions are allowed, but it is never a reason to disrespect so please mind your manners.

The Loneliness Generation

I am a homebody at heart, no matter how much I like to hang out with friends for some tete-a-tete or some serious, deep conversations, I value my alone-time a lot. But there’s a difference between being alone by choice where you can be happy accompanying yourself, and being lonely in the middle of a crowd. I have to say I have not been that immune to that kind of loneliness. Perhaps, no one is. This article shares my and most people’s sentiments…Thanks to the author, Catherine Bennett, BTW 🙂