Life Lessons from “Train to Busan” #FreakyFriday

Last week, I promised true freaky stories for #FreakyFriday. Well, I am currently working on them. *sigh* BUT, I’ve got something else! *reverse-sigh (is that even possible???)* I happened on my pal Fran’s recent post on Cure4Mondays. Fran is “a full-time homeschooling mom and tenacious seeker of what feels good….currently the CEO and the undisputed demi-god” of her household. I got to know her after I left the print publication and she just got in. That seems weird, but that’s how it went. Fran is a really nice and talented lady.

But we’re talking about her post. I thought I’d share her post today 🙂

7 Life Lessons You Can’t Miss in “Train to Busan”

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Agree or disagree? Tell us what you think!

Have a nice weekend!!!

 

What Really Matters

*NOTE: I thought I’d repost something I wrote years ago, having been reminded by what’s currently been happening here…

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WHAT REALLY MATTERS

“Ashes to ashes, dust to dust.” Regardless of race, gender, beliefs and religion, we all end up the way we begin. It is, however, the “to” that matters the most, that space between yesterday and tomorrow – TODAY. How do you live your life today? How many lives have you touched? Do you fail and sulk, or do you fail and still manage to love life? Are you a humble winner, or are you a winner in need of a lesson in humility?

Two people reminded me of the importance of “today”.

One was someone I had known almost all my life but never really met. Five years of battling cancer finally caught up with her. There was no getting around it. Death is a painful process for both the grieving and the one they lose, no matter how prepared they think they are. Yet, she did more than prepare. She committed the last years of her life not to bitterness but to better-ness, to a life with more meaning. She held her own faith in her heart and gave love and hope and maybe faith again to those who needed them. She was not selfish and gave help even to people she did not know.

The other one was someone who, for a brief time, touched my life in his own, unknowing way. He was a classmate in high school, Freshman year, and left after the second. He was killed recently…The other day, I cut out an article about him. At first, I found it a bit funny – funny in a strange way – that the only chance I got to learn more about him again was through an article in the papers about his death. There, loved ones and friends recounted how his life had been. And somehow, I smiled, because at least, he had been a good person to merit the admiration and adoration of many people. It’s just a pity. He would’ve made it to our high school reunion last December. Maybe he would’ve come.

They are just examples of people who made a difference, and there in lies the difference – What you do TODAY. I am not sure what difference I, myself, can make. I just know I will try.

Advice to a Young Lad [Part 2]

*NOTE: After two years, I wrote and posted this one. (The first one was posted previously)

 

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It was almost 11pm last night. I just said my goodnight to my Multiply bud with whom I had a very interesting “chat” about WICKED and Idina Menzel. I said I had to go home early. Then, I remembered a text message from my friend/ex-boss BOSSING Tuesday: “____ will be going on his peace retreat from Friday to Sunday this week. He is supposed to receive a package of love letters from family and friends during the retreat. Please take time to write him a letter. You can e-mail it to me by Thursday evening. I am delivering the letters to the retreat on Friday morning…”

So I tried to write with much sense. I don’t really know if I did. I just didn’t want not to write the letter. First of all, I felt happy that she would think of asking me, not once, but twice! Some years ago, I wrote my first letter to her son. This time, this was what I wrote:

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Advice to a Young Lad [Part 1]

*NOTE: Sometimes, the best person to give you advice is yourself, if you’ll just listen to that little voice inside. I have been re-posting this piece not only to share my thoughts but just to keep reminding myself that I do know these and must apply what I know…If he happens to see this, the young man I gave this to will remember as well.

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For many weeks now, I have been communicating with my new friends. I must admit, I didn’t expect such deep conversations at first that would force me to evaluate myself, as I’m evaluating myself now.

Where do I stand? What are my views? Am I different? Do I belong? Do I make sense? Do people make sense to me? Am I naive or stupid or innocent? Am I intelligent enough, positive enough, practical enough, secure enough?

Thinking about these today, I suddenly remembered an actual letter I wrote years ago for a 12-year-old boy who went to a retreat that year:

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The young boy, in truth, is the son of my former Boss who had/has been a friend to me. I was chummy with this kid, whose not quite the kid now. He was going to a retreat with his whole batch in grade school and part of the requirements was for parents, relatives and/or friends to write letters addressed to them. These letters were supposed to be given to the teachers who would hand the letters to the students on the last day of the retreat. To my surprise, my Boss asked me to write one for him. I was surprised because she thought of me that much. And I was surprised because she trusted me enough to give her son some words of wisdom.

You’d think it would be easy. The words of wisdom were required to help the children. So I thought long and hard until finally, I came up with this. What surprised me more, it gave me the chance to do a lot of thinking.

So now, I am again doing a lot of thinking. But now, I realize, here they are, the stuff that I, myself, said a person actually needs…Fortunately, I still believe. I am still growing. And will still keep these words in mind. 🙂

Copyright © J.Gi Federizo

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UPDATE: I wrote a second letter for him a few years after — Advice to a Young Lad [Part 2]