No Turning Back

January. It signifies a lot of new things, right? Not only the year, but many create resolutions and many make plans. Well, me, too. But for me, January 2015 is the start of something else (and basically why I couldn’t find much time to post in the past weeks).

Why January was because of people’s conflict of schedules last December, which would have been a great month for it, and because if we consider the Chinese calendar (I’m probably practically 0% Chinese), it’s still technically 2014, deemed a great year to take the plunge. So I took the plunge:

I WENT AND GOT MYSELF MARRIED!!!

Yes, folks, I am now half of a two-person team, one of them crazy peeps who thought they would be settling down when in reality, it would actually be the opposite.

Yeah, I know, I know, why couldn’t I jut stay single and be happy? One well-meaning friend even kind of tried to dissuade me, saying she just wanted me to enjoy my life after what I went through when my parents both got sick and passed away. But the thing was I enjoyed my life best when I was, and now am, with him. Mushy, I know, but there’s just no other way to put it.

It was a very simple wedding but I still wanted a cake to cut, wine for the couple drink or whatever you call it, and souvenirs such as this one. Photo and copyright ©  J.Gi Federizo

I mean I’m not even the party-hard, travel-much kind of person and I’m kind of a cheapskate, anyway, I’m not ashamed to admit. I just love to laze around, write, read, watch TV, talk about trivial and foolish things, even have deep and intellectually stimulating or enhancing conversations. People know I like to talk and I can spend hours doing it. Lots of times, I like to be alone, too, doing my own thing. So you see, things I enjoy need not be only experienced if I stayed single.

Don’t get me wrong. I am still an advocate of single-blessedness, as I had staunchly expressed in the past. I do not necessarily advocate being single, nor being married, for that matter. I am advocating the freedom to choose and live as your status. Whatever you think will work for you.

It just so happens that married life seems to be what’s going to work for me and well, there’s no other alternative but to do my–our–hardest to make it work. I will not be a fool and pretend that everything is going to be smooth-sailing. It won’t be and if I were to be honest, there will surely be lots of bumps on the road. But the best road isn’t just one that is less traveled, but one you keep traveling on despite bumps and everything else. That’s what keeps the whole journey worth it, right?

Marriage is when you choose to be merry together as you age. Okay, I made that one up, but I like it so sue me 😉